Thank you for joining
me this evening. We are here to have a
little fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that follows is not intended to
resemble anyone I know. If it does it is
purely coincidental. I hope my stories/questions are inviting
enough that you will join in the conversation.
With that being said lets have fun exchanging some words…..
You have been
dating your mate for about three months and everything is going well. Today he/she comes to you and says that they've
heard about a job they applied for about six months or more ago; long before
they met you. They never mentioned it in
the past because it had been awhile and they thought that it had been so long
since they heard anything about the job that it was not going to come through. But to their surprise they were offered the
job and it is just too good to be true.
The money is right and it's their dream job. The only problem is the job is in Seattle Washington,
they will have to move. They ask you to
move with them but you have too many other responsibilities and ties where you
are and can't leave right now. In fact
by the looks of things you would not be able to move, if at all, any time soon. Your mate wants to continue the committed,
monogamous relationship long distance.
What do you do? Long distance
relationships: Yea or Nah?
If there is no compromise, there is no relationship. It only works when both parties are on the same page and flexible enough to want it to work. There are options but if one person is not open to how this could work and solely focuses on how it could not work, the relationship is already done.
ReplyDeleteI hear you LoveAlwaysWins, it takes work from both parties to make any relationship work. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteI wouldn't commit to a long distance monogamous relationship after just 3 months of dating. However, I will visit a few times and let the relationship 'fizzle' out naturally. If it becomes stronger, I think we'll have a better foundation to try and build upon.
ReplyDeleteGood point, time is key in make the right moves. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteI agree with Anonymous. Even if I didn't have any major responsibilities, I would not uproot my life and make such a huge move like that with someone that I have only been dating for 3 months.
ReplyDeleteYou are very true, a huge move like that need more than a 3 month foundation to build on. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteI honestly cant do a long distance relationship. I would wish him much success in his new career and remain friends. I just cant leave my life after just dating for only 3 months.
ReplyDeleteI with you Anonymous, a long distance relationship is not something I think I could do. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteIn 3 months of knowing someone, I surely wouldn't have the audacity to ask anyone to up root their life for me and my dream. I too agree that a long distance thing isn't for me either.
ReplyDeleteThat would be a lot to ask. Thanks Saundra.
DeleteIf the relationship is going well, I would definitely continue the relationship long distance. You never know how things will turn out for him once he gets there. He may end up not liking it, and end up returning to the area. Nowadays, with all the advances in technology, I think it would be much easier to maintain a relationship long distance. Plus, if you both want the relationship bad enough, you will make a way...traveling half the distance, etc....to make it work. It'll definitely be the perfect opportunity to test the commitment level of both parties.
ReplyDeleteYou make some good points CuriousGal BUT I just don't think I could do the long distance thing. Thanks for your words.
DeleteA long distance relationship can work for individuals who dont need much intimacy or who can handle a open relationship. People who need intimacy, most likely wouldn't remain committed. Also anything can work if both parties agree. Communication is the key for any good relationship weather you talking about intimate ones, friends, family or even business partners.
ReplyDeleteYES!!!!! If intimacy is important to you distance hurts!!! Very well said Keifco. Thanks for your words, please continue to join us.
DeleteI will say, No to the long distance relationship. I would want to move on to reach my dreams, and would not want to uproot my mate. If our love is strong and we were meant to be together, our paths will cross in the future, but I wouldn't expect to keep the relationship going right now. It wouldn't be fair to either of us.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Keesha! Thanks for your words.
DeleteI would definitely have to say no. There are certain lines that should not be crossed. The relationship may be over because the two of you decided
ReplyDeleteI would definitely have to say no. There are certain lines that should not be crossed. The relationship may be over because the two of you decided
ReplyDeleteI think this was suppose to be on the question about seeing a friends ex. Either way I don't think it should be a problem as long as the friend does not have a problem with it. Thanks for your comments Anonymous/D Jones
DeleteI think 3 months is not long enough to even consider that conversation seriously. Even though everything is great, it would be one of those things I would simply leave up to fate. If we are meant to be then it would work itself out.
ReplyDeleteI agree, 3 months is way too soon. And as for the long distance thing...I just don't think I could do it. Thanks for your words Sleepwatcher.
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