Thank you for joining me this evening. We are here to have a
little fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that
follows is not intended to resemble anyone I know. If it does it is
purely coincidental. I hope my stories/questions are inviting enough
that you will join in the conversation. With that being said lets have
fun exchanging some words…..
And if you don't know now you know....:
Life's poem and the Sex Pages
The Sex Pages II: Sexual Eruption
Unbeknownst
to you your significant other is/has been communication with an old friend
since before the two of you got together.
The friend (opposite sex) does not live in the area yet they talk or
text pretty much on a daily basis. After learning of the friend for the first time you also learn that this friend
makes advances (flirts/slick talking/propositions) and your significant other
entertains these actions, even though they claim they have no intention on
acting on anything, by flirting back.
Your significant other says that nothing has ever happened between the
two of them. Says that there is no kind of relationship other than a friendship. How would you feel about this?
But WAIT there’s more.
This
does not sit well with you so you decided that you and your significant other are in need or a serious talk. During the talk
your significant other tell you that this friend has been there for them
through other relationship and has been a person they could talk to when they
really needed someone to talk listen. They
also tell you that she plans to continue communicating with the friend and on
top of that has no plans on telling the friend that the advances need to stop.
How would you handle this? What would you do????
In order for the relationship to work there has to be trust, respect, and even more important ...communication. For the "friend" to make advances while they are aware the other is in a relationship is teetering on a borderline of disrespect for the relationship he/she is in. For the person in the relationship....Owning up to the mistake and looking for ways to fix it (such as advising the friend its some conversations are inappropriate) is the only way to begin to repair the relationship if trust has been broken
ReplyDeleteI agree with pretty much all you have said. At a certain point I don't know what can be done to fix it. But I do know that for anything work at all something has to be done about the friend. Thanks for your words
DeleteI don't have a problem with innocent flirting or my man having opposite sex friendships, but "advances" is crossing the line. That is flat out disrespectful and even more disrespectful of your significant other if they tell you that they are not going to tell the friend to stop the advances...WTF? This is also sending the message that they are ok with the friend pushing boundaries. Who knows...they may push further and start sending inappropriate pictures or physically touching your significant other inappropriately. I mean why not? They have already allowed them to disrespect your relationship. If the friend will not respect your relationship, you should at least know that your significant other will.
ReplyDeleteUsayshejustafriend thanks for your words. I believe people flirt with other everyday and I don't have a problem with that at all. But when the flirting or anything else starts to interfere with the relationship then there is a problem. And at no time should disrespect be allowed by anyone.
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