Wednesday, June 25, 2014
June 25, 2014 - Could you, would you date someone that makes less money than you?
Thank you for joining me this evening. We are here to have a little fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that follows is not intended to resemble anyone I know. If it does it is purely coincidental. I hope my stories/questions are inviting enough that you will join in the conversation. With that being said lets have fun exchanging some words…..
(In my O' Jays voice) Money, money, money, money, money!! The almighty dollar!! Does money change you? Is money the root of all evil? I tend to believe that the LACK of money is the root of all evil because; to get it some people will do whatever it takes...but that's just me.
How important is money to you? I understand we all need it to live but for some that "greenback, scrilla, cheese, cash, doe, mullah, paper, dead presidents, bread...etc" is like a God. After saying that here's the question of the night.....
After realizing how important money is could you date someone that makes less money than you? SIGNIFICANTLY less than you; I'm talking about somewhere in the range of $20,000 less than you. When you meet them they have there own place, car and are doing ok for themselves but never the less can't match your salary. Because of this there will be times where money is an issue when it comes to doing things. So... Could you, would you date someone that makes less money than you?
And while your at it, see if you can come up with some more names for money.
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I would and have dated someone that made less than me. He was a hard worker taking care of his sons by himself. Although he was making less, he had ambition and was putting things in motion to get ahead. He also had a side hustle (legal :-) ) to supplement his salary. Now if a man lacks ambition, and is not even trying to do better...I would not date him. It wouldn't be because of his lower salary, it would be because of the lack of ambition and effort. If he is not putting in any effort to make his own life better, how can I expect him to make an effort in making a life together.
ReplyDeleteOther names for money...Dinero, coins, loot, benjamins...lol
OK showmethemoney I see you lol. I don't think it would be a problem for me dating someone that makes less. I'm sure things might get tight at times but with a little work we could make everything OK. Thanks for your words.
DeleteOf course I can date someone who makes less "dinero" than me. In fact, I married him. I will say this though, he needed to get his weight up or he was going to get left behind. I like to vacation every chance I get and if he can't hang then that was his problem. See you when I get back. :-) He now makes more than me.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though this topic can go in so many directions. What salary range are we talking? I'm a six figure chick so someone making $20,000 less than me is not a problem. Together we are doing just fine.
Money IS the root of my evil. I don't sleep well at night when my money ain't right. I will get on the grind and hustle for my money, so any man that wants to be with me has to have the same drive for money or it won't work. I don't need to live a flashy lifestyle, I just need to have the money readily available when I need it or I can't sleep at night.
Anonymous....BALLIN"!!! lol Money is a big issue in many relationships and it can cause many problems. In most cases I think if the party making less is trying to "get their weight up" things will be ok. But there are time when trying.....just ain't good enough (for some). It can be a delicate situation for some, I'm glad your situation worked out Anonymous. Thanks for your words.
ReplyDeleteInteresting......I think this one depends on the situation. The described scenario doesn't depict a broke brotha so I don't see much of an issue here. I will say that I do like money. I like to make it, save it, spend it, and give it away to those in need. If the brotha has ambition then he won't lag behind salary wise for long. I'd hang in there and give a him a chance to see where it goes. Plus, he's spending his money on the right things so at least I know he has some common sense. If he doesn't mind we can pool our money to go out and have fun.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous I agree, it's not that he is broke but some might have an issue with some making less no matter how much less. More or less does not matter to me. But in todays society (not as much as it used to be) the man is thought to be the bread winner. So for a woman to bring home the bacon that might be a little hard for some to deal with....especially a man. Thanks for your words Anonymous.
ReplyDeleteWhat a loaded question and here's the bullet. Men are seen since the biblical days as the provider. Fast forward to today and you are the slacker. Not all but some. Too many times they are seen hanging on the corners doing what nothing so what is that providing me, nothing but a headache. Big ups to those men who are out there doing their thing and the women who support them emotional and physically doesn't hurt. Both parties are responsible and should be mature enough to handle putting bread on the table and I'm not talking about a loaf. I would like for my man to be stacked and he is but yes there had been days when this Queen had to bring home the bacon and the bread. Unity is unity and money should not matter.
ReplyDeleteI hear you Anonymous... Now a day there are many slackers (men and women) and I don't think it should matter but...we all know it does. If you are a united front it should not matter who is the bread winner...should it??
DeleteThanks for your words Anonymous...
ReplyDeleteMoney doesn't mean anything to me. Of course I need it to survive but as long as I can make it with the money I have, I'm good. I don't need my spouse to make more than me. It's all coming in the house. My husband actually does make about 20,000 less than me but we put our money together. It's family money-- not mine and his. At the end of the day, we still two broke people but we are two broke people that have each other. Better to be broke together than broke alone.
ReplyDeletelol Two broke people, I hear you. I don't think it should be an issue but I do believe that in many situations if the man is not the bread winner (makes more) then it is an issue. Thanks for your words K.D.
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