Thank you for
joining me this evening. We are here to
have a little fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that follows is not intended to
resemble anyone I know. If it does it is
purely coincidental. I hope my
stories/questions are inviting enough that you will join in the
conversation. With that being said lets
have fun exchanging some words…..
So... you're at
work and there is this unbelievable guy/girl.
She’s pretty, nice body, attitude to match and they are single. On top of that she/he is interested in you.
What do you do? Work romances can they
work? Would you? Have you?
What I am about
to say is going to be a big contradiction but..... I really don't know if I would seek out a work
romance; but saying that the best relationship I ever had started at work. I guess if it just happened I don't think I
would stop it but at the same time I don't know if I'd be open to it to allow
it to happen. SMDH......
Workplace
relationships....yes or no?
It can work if both parties set up parameters and boundaries...and if the woman can control her feelings should things fall apart.
ReplyDeleteI agree Anonymous, MAJOR boundaries need to be set. And that woman controlling themselves lol. I'll leave that alone lol. Thanks for your words.
DeleteI wouldn't seek a workplace romance, but if I really felt that it could be something I would go with the flow. Once two parties put their feelings/interests out there, it's going to play itself out one way or another.
ReplyDeleteI have done it, and my longest relationship was with someone I worked with. He was/is a good person and the relationship just ran it's course. On the flip side, my worst relationship also stemmed from a workplace romance.
If you do partake in a workplace romance, like anonymous said set up boundaries and make sure that you are both on the same page. Also be sure that the other person is mature enough to handle themselves like they have some sense if things don't work out.. There is nothing like having to face a crazy, bitter, spiteful, jackass fool at your place of work everyday...trust me!
Lunchbreakquickie (sounds like a good topic for another blog lol), You are so right about having to see a crazy face at work. NOT A GOOD LOOK. Thanks for your words.
DeleteI wouldn't seek out an office romance, but we're attracted to who we are attracted to...so if the attraction is mutual AND both parties are single, it will be hell-a-hard to stop something from happening. You just have to hope, as you do with any other relationship, that both parties are mature enough to handle the consequences when it does.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous it seems like the common sentiment today is that everyone involved needs to be able to handle the situation. The only problem with that is...everyone THINKS they can but we find out that not everyone can. And that's when the situations suck ass! Thanks for your words.
DeleteThat would be a NO for me. I like to keep my personal life and work life separate. But at the same time you can't control who you are attracted too but you can control your actions. I can understand the excitement of an office romance but once that ends.... Then what? Sometimes both individuals are mature enough to amicably part ways but other times well... Office drama and gossip. But back to my first response. No I would not.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous I sooooo feel you with the office drama and gossip. Been there, done that and will NEVER go back; and for that reason I gave my very contradictory answer. But hey....such is life. Thanks for your words.
DeleteI have seen successful and not so successful workplace relationships. Both parties should be confident and feel secure. With that said, I used to "see" someone prior to his starting at my job and things did not go well and our friendship ended not long after he worked there. My insecurities surrounding this handsome male who I had known for years, and his new employment at my female dominated work environment, did not produce favorable results. Would I date someone in the workplace again...I would not pursue it; however, if it occurred some lengthy conversations and boundary setting would occur. Working in education and social service settings with few eligible men make some women swoon and well, flirtations abound...I cannot deal with that again.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous it sounds like you had a lot going on with this situation. All in all a workplace romance, just like any other, takes a lot of work. Thanks for your words.
DeletePersonally I would not want an office romance. The reason is because it would not give you a chance to miss the person. Working together could be good for some and may even work out well but what if there are issues between the couple...everyone in the office will notice the tension or notice that you aren't speaking to one another. I just say to each his own.
ReplyDeleteMs. Dee your concerns seem to be just like everyone's. If the parties are not able to handle the situation when it goes bad...that's not good. It's almost a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. Thanks for your words Ms. Dee.
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