Thank you for joining me this evening. We are here to have a little fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that follows is not intended to resemble anyone I know. If it does it is purely coincidental. I hope my stories/questions are inviting enough that you will join in the conversation. With that being said lets have fun exchanging some words…..
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Good afternoon folks, I hope this evening finds everyone well. Tonight's question is a pretty broad, open ended one so it should generate a lot of feed back. With that I ask....
When do you know its time to give up on a relationship?
It's time to give up when the bad outweighs the good. No relationship is perfect and they all have ups and downs, but when the relationship is draining you and not adding to you...it might be time to move on. If you are the only one putting forth effort or the only one compromising, and the other person isn't doing the same...move on. It doesn't mean that you don't still care for the person or that the person is bad. Like Tyler Perry said, "Sometimes we try to keep together what God himself is trying to break apart".
ReplyDeleteBut is it just that easy Ubettacalltyrone? If you are into the person, in love (I've said it before and I'll always say it. I think love is over rated) is it just that easy to let go? When you feel like you are the only one working to make things work it's still hard to let go. Thanks for your words Ubettercalltyrone.
DeleteNo, it's not easy. But how long do you stay when you know that it's not working. Now like I said, if it's still adding to you in a positive way, by all means try to stick it out. I have stayed in relationships for a year or more too long because I still loved the person, but I am just at a point in my life where my happiness and peace is more important than trying to beat a dead horse. People stay in relationships that they know are over because they still love the person, they don't want to be alone, they are worried about what people will say, or they are comfortable and don't feel like starting over with someone new. Shoot, I stayed in those relationships I mentioned because I grew very close with their families and didn't want to disappoint the families, and yes I still had love for them That was wasted time that I could have been happy instead of drained and miserable.
DeleteI have recently been spending time with an ex, and we are much better as just friends than we were towards the end of our relationship. Had we ended it when we actually knew that it was over, we could have gotten to the good place that we are now much sooner. As friends, we are actually adding more to each other than we did when we were unhappy and frustrated.
I am the last person to want to see anyone's relationship end. If it can be worked out and successfully sustained, that is great. Every one is different and every relationship is unique, and you know when it has run it's course. If I love someone, I will exhaust every option to try to make it work, but I am not for forcing something that is not meant to be.
Thank you Ubettacalltyrone, I really appreciate your words.
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