Thank you for joining me this evening. We are here to have a little
fun, share ideas and talk like adults. The scenario that follows is not
intended to resemble anyone I know. If it does it is purely
coincidental. I hope my stories/questions are inviting enough that you
will join in the conversation. With that being said lets have fun
exchanging some words…..
If you don't know now you know....:
Life's poem and the Sex Pages
The Sex Pages II: Sexual Eruption
You meet someone and you are getting to know them and find yourself really
liking them. You are still in that getting to know them stage (that is a
very short period of time for some lol) so nothing has happened as far
as sex. One day you are talking and the conversation come up about how
many people you have both slept with. (Just for the record I would like
to say that I don’t think that this conversation should EVER… EVER be
had. Most people, especially men, cannot handle this conversation lol. Any
number will be too high); you find out that your new potential lover has a big
number; and really big number. What do you do?
After having a conversation about numbers (without disclosing numbers) with the man of my dreams earlier today I realize this is not a question I want answered #ATALL
ReplyDeleteWell Anonymous everybody just can't handle the truth. You don't think you can handle the truth? Thanks for your words.
DeleteI have personally never asked a man this question, and don't have the desire to. If I have, I don't recall. If I was really feeling him, I would continue getting to know him. Everyone has a past. I would ask him if he has been tested, and if he was still on that same track. If I got a feeling that I was just another notch on his belt, I would probably keep it platonic. Or maybe a friend with benefits...no expectations (if I was in that place at that time). I wouldn't hold it against him, but I would take things slow and he would definitely be wrapping it up if sex ever came into play...well that would be happening anyway regardless of his number.
ReplyDeleteYousafreak I agree that everyone has a past. Should that number matter no but I'm sure to most people it will. Thanks for your words.
DeletePeople are funny, being, in their mind they like to perceive themselves as the "only one". I personally can be quite candid and open about this subject, but the majority of women I've had this conversation with, including my current spouse, just aren't equipped to handle an other than modest number of lovers. It is a very sensitive subject, and I agree, it should be avoided at all costs. As stated earlier, everyone has a past..... be thankful that path led that person to you.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Los, I can not have this conversation now, it would not be well received. The imagination is a crazy thing, it makes people believe what they want to believe even if its not true. The conversation would go from numbers, to who was better, to you still want her. Smdh.... So like I said before, just don't have the conversation!!! Thanks for your words.
DeleteI just recently had this conversation with a good friend of mine. It was just a casual conversation which led me to ask other platonic friends about the "numbers" thing. Personally I don't want to know because I know myself....it would lead to other questions and then feelings would get all crazy...so it's best if that subject is left untouched, unasked, unanswered...just left alone.
ReplyDeleteSmh Ms.Dee. if you can't stand the heat please stay out the kitchen. Conversations like these can cause much damage, please don't try them at home. Thanks for your words.
Deleteas we grow older the question become less important. IMO. Here's 2 more relevant questions. HOW MANY KIDS? and HOW MANY BABY DADDYS!! LOL. JFT
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